Building relationships: a start to a successful business

Its pretty sad this days that many of us look down on so many opportunities where revenue can be generated. The truth remains that our minds are our strongest force. If you put your mind to do something, no matter what obstacles may come ur way, you will overcome it. I am a living proof of that. We can't keep working for people the rest of our lives and helping them build their dreams. Its time for us to find what can build an alternative income for us. A colleague of mine resigned to start her own candy shop (imagine just candy). I called her to come for my daughter's birthday party and how much it would cost but after getting her feedback, i just couldn't afford her. We need to start knowing the type of legacy we intend for our kids (do u want them to keep suffering and sacrificing their time for someone else to get rich or for their own business). This few weeks, I have been thinking alot and I have promised myself that i will explore my kids potentials and teach them to be independent as well as employers of labour (Dangote that made it doesn't have two heads) . I have realised dat in Nigeria, hard work doesn't really pay you if you are working for someone because you can be let go at any time. Building contacts and relationships is what the world needs now to be able to survive in whatever environment you may find yourself. In April, on my way back to Nigeria, while i was waiting on the queue of those leaving the u.s, I heard a guy speaking Igbo with his family before he joined the queue. It took me courage to ask him if he was Nigerian to be certain and he replied and so we got talking. Do u know its the same guy that helped me out when we got to Dubai (my travel agent didnt book an hotel for me). Sometimes I wonder what may have been my situation if I didn't start a conversation with him. I learnt that the worst a person can hurt you if you bring a business concept to them is say NO. Even though I am learning this at a later age, i am definately glad that I got to learn it.

Gradual reveal of my Life's experiences....

So I am listening to my favorite boy group of all time ‘West life’; I wonder what ever happened to them and what led to their break-up.. I so loved Bryan (the lead singer of the group). In my teenage days i wished I could be free the way they were. Watching their song videos sometimes brought tears to my eyes because I wondered how life was going to be for me when I was older. Growing up in an environment where I felt silence was a form of peace making, I spoke less and kept more to myself. Not to forget that I loved to read novels. Novels were just the escape from reality and it took me to a realm where I felt peaceful and happy or sad..ie if the characters were good or emotional. I was a huge fan of Daniele Steel and Sidney Sheldon. Gosh; where has my love for books gone? Truthfully, I wouldn’t say I had the most wonderful childhood even though my parents were among the middle class (if I may say so). My dad had his own house so yes I classify us as a middle class family. I am just glad to be writing this and I am thankful to God for where he has brought me to. Recounting my life. I finished from Queen’s College in 2000, got admission into Unilag and finished in 2006, I got an intern job after my University days just to keep me busy and after my youth service, I got a job in a radio station. I currently still work in that radio station. I am hardworking, I know that, even if no one tells me. My MD actually called me to acknowledge my hard work and that day was just the best day of my life as at that time (2010). I got married in 2011. I wouldn’t say I knew him that much, but he made me feel important and I could tell him anything. Basically I was just comfortable with him. Before I met my husband, i was coming out of a heart broken relationship that took a year to heal but I am glad that things happened the way they did. God has a way of catching you when you fall or when you feel your life isn’t just worth it. (Will let you guys into that world some other time). Something else, when I turned 25years, I said to myself ‘you have to start thinking of settling down’. My mum didn’t help matters. She was always on my case (will be unleashing this gradually). Listening to beautiful love songs can make you believe that love is a perfect thing but truly, love is accepting the other’s partner’s mistake and saying you can make them better. I am glad my husband walked into my life when he did.

Fuel Scarcity Increase

Wooow..it funny how Nigerian government can make decisions overnight and just implement it. Nigeria is getting harder for a lot of people. the poor are getting poorer, but all we can do is accept it and wait for the change promised to be REAL. I was angry on my way to work this morning. i almost got into a fight with a bus conductor, not because of the hike in the transportation increase due to the 145 naira per litre but because the conductor was so insolent with his passengers acting like its only him the suffer ring is affecting How many of us got increase in salaries and do some of our employers really care. Well, after listening to Ibe Kachukwu (Minister of Petroleum), i believe Nigeria can be better with this subsidy removal some time in the future (all the kabals are gradually being uprooted). Maybe some day i may be an independent importer of PMS (hehehehe) Back to the real reason this blog was created. i write about myself and maybe when the time is right, i may decide to go into entertainment gossio or whatever i decide. I believe i will have mentioned in some of my previous post that i am on a weight loss process and my exercising and dieting is paying off. I am so glad that my hubby has just been all over me as in eeh (which woman wont like that after 2 kids). Today was good at work. Had internet issues and couldnt received most of my jobs but its all good. Will have to find my way home since hubby wont come and pick me. Hubby's birthday is almost here.. So its time to find my way home.

Money Changes People....(Never forget that money is a spirit and will never be enough)

Another day…glad for life. Woke up as usual and went for my Jog. Drove my son to school and packed his lunch box. Glad I have a nanny that is really helpful….. Hurray… So glad the queues are gradually disappearing. What a relief; Baba God thank you oooooo… so on my way to work I was pondering on how my yesterday went. There is a lot to be thankful for and will not let any person bring me down with his/ her words To get to the matter, let me even start from the genesis. Last week Friday, I received a call from a client asking for airtime to promote his music. As innocent and kind hearted that I am, I advised him that he wont get the leverage that he wants by just coming on air once and directed him to a certain OAP. the said OAP was asking for an outrageous sum (over 250k) to promote just a single for an upcoming artist. I was devastated. Well I informed the artist and he pleaded that he didn’t have such amount. Well to cut long story short, the artist decided to pay for a live appearance. I informed the said OAP of the development so that he can know that they are desperate but my dear, na so I put myself for insult to the extent that he implied that I am poverty stricken (my reply to him is thus, since ‘you are living in affluence and ‘Dangote himself’, he should keep it up; as for me, I am comfortable with myself and what God is doing for me). He started saying that the song wasn’t good and bla bla bla bla … and that it should go through the right channel (forgetting that he already replied me that the song was good and he would take them once the money was paid). I am just glad I have never asked this imbecile for 1 naira. This life is really funny oh. I learnt something yesterday sha, that you never really know who your friends are until money is involved. Well I am glad for life and where I am cos I know I have a purpose on earth. Aside what happened above, I had quite a busy day and interesting one as well. Glad for my new department. (O Lord, whatever forces in my company that are stepping and wanting to sack/ bring people down. oh God I proclaim downfall for them. Your word says that you have come to give us peace and peace shall be ours). Amen

Patience....(learn from others mistakes)

Its funny how easy one will think that starting a blog is one easy thing. Actually it isn’t at all. The likes of Linda ikeji are trying because sometimes the words to write down or use can sometimes just disappear from one’s head. So the trending topic now is Tiwa Savage and her husband. For goodness sakes; everyone should just mind their business. Whose business is it if Tiwa never asked her husband if he got hungry or Tee Bliss didn’t pay the hospital bills. I just hope they resolve it and be happy. Ladies out there, I hope you all are learning from Tiwa’s mistake. She said she was warned when she was about to say ‘I do’ but shoved it aside. Relationships and marriage are two different things. Back to the matter….. My daughter can walk! Walk! Walk! Walk! Walk! (In Rihanna’s voice). I am so excited at almost 10 months. She just wows me watching her grow. As little as she is, she fights with her brother (which amazes me). I am so glad, thankful, can’t even express the joy motherhood brings and I give the almighty God praises for his blessings. My days have been hectic, shuttling from a job I close by 8pm (I resume at 11am so I get my sleep back). To facing the annoying evening traffic on my way home. But all the same, I can say now that I am glad to be where I am now. So today, I woke up at 5.45am, thanks to Jazz’s cry. I reluctantly got up and had to go make her formulae. She finished the 150ml and went right back to sleep giving me the opportunity to get ready to go jogging. My son woke up almost immediately Jazz slept off sand rushed to the T.V (I need help on how to stop him from this TV addiction). KJ (my son) didn’t go to school because he isn’t feeling so well Fast forward….i got back from my jog and made breakfast. So I got ready for work. I decided to come in earlier because of the long holiday which led to most campaigns pending; I needed to be certain that all was done. That was my priority when I got to the office and my ever efficient team were on it already. So it’s almost time to head home and I am glad for a fruitful day hoping that all the clients that called when send in the money. Hehehehe I am currently on a fruit diet. I am trying to challenge myself for one week to depend on only fruits and nothing else. Just hoping I survive through it.

Still trying....

My Friday was a bit busy. I was at the seminar till 6pm and saw a very good friend afterwards. Had a wonderful sleep without a baby's cry waking me up. Well it felt wonderful but i miss my kids. I actually learnt something new today. Do you know there is a difference between sex and gender. Check out www.iampurple.ng. I put a halt to my dieting till I get back to Lagos. Na wah oh did weight thing is easy to gain but difficult to loose. WHY..... I had a wonderful day just cant remember....

Thursday 21st April

Flashing back to how my today started..... Woke up pretty late. 6.30am to be precise cos I had to parboil the rice that I would use to make jollof rice plus I close work by 8pm and getting home past 10pm. Couldn't go for my new found hobby (I wish... i am trying to loose some kg....) Calling out to my son 'Nna go and get ready for school, have you eaten? What do you want to eat'. He says 'mum I want this'..pointing to his cereal container. So i woke his dad to take him to school. (I hate the fact that the school is now a distant away. they moved to its permanent site).....i packed up his lunch box and called out to My hubby. Babe its time to take kammy to school. Grudgingly, he got up and proceeded to the rest room to freshen up. By the way I stated, today is mama's immunization. Will u take her cos you know I cant. 'ok' he said. Hehhehehehe I laughed to myself feeling like I accomplished a major thing. Home alone now and as usual, no light so I started cleaning out the rooms and washing the dishes I cooked with. I looked at the time and decided to do some work out (jumping jacks and a bit of skipping). A little past 9am, hubby comes in saying he had an appointment and needed to be there asap. Me looking confused was like didnt you know. He says 'i thought the appointment was next week' well no time for blaim games so I let him be. Mama missed her immunization again. I helped him sort his stuffs to beat Lagos traffic.. Now hubby is gone and I got ready for work and my abuja trip Gosh... I so hate driving in Lagos; I always curse whenever I am behind this steering. ok let me fast forward.....i got to office past 11am called for uber to the airport but the estimate price was much so waited for a colleague to call his own cab man... 'Muyiwa where you dey? I wan make you take my friend to the airport her flight is by 1pm. Ok' Hillz looked at me and said 'the cab man said he is at obalende and he is coming. That is why I Like him, he says the truth' ok I said, looking at my wrist watch.. Its almost 12 and I hope he will make it. 'don't worry, you will make it' says Hillz. Ok oh If u say so.. Its almost 1pm and he isn't here.. I will miss this flight... Ooohhh... 12.32, the cab man finally showed up blaiming the traffic and speeding like a sea with lots of wave we got to the airport an hour later. I went to the check in counter.. ' Madam I am going to Abuja, I know I am late but what can I do' I stated. 'we are sorry, you have to schedule another flight for 4pm' she stated... I looked at my watch and she spoke with a colleague and said 'ok, you are very lucky let me see your ticket and I.d. She took them and gave me my boarding pass. ( thank you God for this. Been praying that the flight will be delayed and it was...) So right now I am in my hotel room. Will call and check up on my kids later tonite. My hubby is envying me cos he mentioned yesterday that he needs a vacation. By the way I sent him the pix of my room and yes he was late for the appointment but the favor of God saw him through. What a day.... Signing out for now